The Snow Bear As I’ve said before, don’t think I am some battered husband, too intimidated to stand up for himself. I’m not. I could stop all of these games in one conversation, but she and I both find it exciting. I would far rather have a kinky Dominatrix Wife than some Vanilla relationship. After a heavily bound face sitting, teasing and mild torture, a strapon fucking, and CBT handjob; No guy has ever said, “that was boring. I wonder what I missed on Television.” Go to Goog, and search on “Snow Bear Candy”. I don’t know why, but you can’t buy this candy in the US. It’s a very strong men… Pročitajte više

My wife was away for a week. Time away from her is really hard on me. It makes a lot more work to fill in for her absence, but I also miss her very much. Not just sex, but companionship. I don’t want to make a nice meal if it’s just for me. If I see something good on Netflix or Max I think; “I’ll save it for when she gets back and we can watch it together.” She returned late at night because her flight was delayed. The next morning I grabbed her and was hugging her and kissing her breasts in a sleepy mood at 6:00 in the morning. “I will lick you right now if you want.” I reached behind and c… Pročitajte više

Post Valentines Day Four weeks ago was Valentines Day. The week before V-Day we had been having very conventional, Vanilla sex. After my almost month in a chastity cage, we calmed down for a few weeks. Vanilla is nice but we both feel like something is kind of missing. I asked her, “Should we go back to being kinky?” We were laying in bed, and she snuggles up against me. “Yeah, for sure. It’s best sex. And you were very close to orgasm just from my dick. You need more chastity cage and strapon. So good for you!” “I don’t like the chastity cage. I feel helpless. It’s like we made a rule whe… Pročitajte više

Hard to say for sure, but I may have intercepted a message from my wife. Very subtle. We got up this morning, and as we were making the bed she said, "I had a dream about my strapon and the things I need." I went to start my day, and when I came out of the shower the heavy wooden paddle was laying on the bed. What could it mean? It's a mystery wrapped in an enigma.… Pročitajte više

Best Friend is coming over Sunday Afternoon. I'm a bit nervous about it. I spent the morning playing computer games and drinking coffee. I just had toast for breakfast, because my stomach is full of butterflies. I’m nervous. 24 days since I was put in a chastity cage. Today is the day my wife decided to let her friend paddle me, and I think her friend is a little… Careless? Unconcerned? It’s not her husband or boyfriend she’s hurting. I know she wishes it was. In his place, stands me. What does she care if I am too sore to sit for a few days? Bruised or swollen, she won’t care a bit. And I… Pročitajte više

First, let me apologize for this post. It’s not really whacking material. Closer to a How To for kinky couples. My wife has been asking for me to put a St. Andrew’s Cross in our extra, useless bedroom. She has been asking for this for about 2 years but it’s a very low priority. Now, she want’s to give a gift to her best friend, in the form of letting her paddle me. This is the Best Friend from the post titled, “Her Big Friday”. Suddenly the cross is important. They want to make a big deal of it. I’m a little scared because the Friend is just a lunatic for hurting testicles. Go watch, “Longe… Pročitajte više

I don’t know what pronoun to use. My wife and a couple friends ordered three chastity devices for me. Is it my cock cage, or hers or theirs? My wife and I share a credit card, so I’m sure I end up paying for it. That should make it mine. Two arrived late the following Tuesday. My wife was giddy. I did not hear the phone calls, but I’m sure she notified her best friend and probably the Korean Widow Friend. It turns out I have a thick dick. I didn’t really know that, because I have nothing objective to compare it to. A few women have told me that but I didn’t know if it was flattery or the tru… Pročitajte više

Dialog is from memory, but close. I have to explain something about my wife’s personality. She is not a Leader. She is cautious. Before making a decision, she talks it over. She tests the water before diving in. Like when we started turning kinky, she started very cautious with the paddle. “Is that too hard? Does it hurt too much?” But once she know I can take it – she’s Hard Core. I have known this about her for a long time. About the kinky stuff… I didn’t think that out. I know women talk about sex ten times as much as men, but I didn’t connect those dots. I’m a smart man. But I never aske… Pročitajte više

Astrophysics pales in complexity, when compared to human sexuality. There is no understanding it. For example; my wife. She is a pretty little Asian woman. She has a nice body and spends 2 or 3 days a week at the gym. Nice Ass, and semi-huge fake boobs. With the fake boobs (just under $15,000) came Amazingly Perfect Nipples. I love them. The protruding part is surrounded by a small ring, maybe a half inch radius, of smooth, shiny dark skin. Then all surrounded by bumps of scar tissue, like a reef around a small island. Perfectly round and symmetric. We have some very strange conversations.… Pročitajte više

I have traveled quite a bit, doing consulting. I had a valuable specialty about dealing with a certain kind of engineering mistake, and fixing that one expensive problem. I did only this for about 10 years and it took me all over. I have described in some detail about the evolution between my wife and me. I have had a few other episodes you might find interesting. I tried to start a software company taking advantage of the lower cost, and well educated labor in Ukraine and Russia. I was traveling back and forth. A man gets bored, and his mind wanders. If I was in Moscow every month for a we… Pročitajte više

Sorry. It took me forever to write this, mostly because XH locked me out for a month. Age verification, Texas etc. Before you read further, go read “Something Wicked This Way Comes”. It’s very short and sets the context. Let me state clearly: I am not a victim here. I am not a Battered Husband. I just have a very kinky wife, who surprised me by being more kinky than my fantasies. I could stop it all, and I’m the one who started it. But I would rather my sex life be occasionally painful and wild and exciting than predictable and dull. I have a safe word. I could say ‘No More’, but I don’t. Yo… Pročitajte više

I don't know exactly what she has in mind, but it's something different. I have 3 clues: 1) She has hand and foot jobbed me to the edge every day for 3 days, then stopped and told me to wait for Thursday. This is a Clear Violation of Thursday is Thursday and an attempt to expand Dominatrix Day to 4 days. And when I'm close and about to cum, she is just DEMOLISHING my balls with squeezing and pulling and digging them with her fingernails. A really painful way to back me off. Pulling I don't mind too much because it's a very interesting feeling, squeezing just hurts and fingernails hurt… Pročitajte više

I’m taking it so much better lately. I really figured out how to take my ass fucking much better. I have the mechanics all figured out now. My wife’s enthusiasm for Strapon Domination is unstoppable. It’s sexually and emotionally great for her. She loves to use that thing. It makes her feel romantically and emotionally secure, because she feels like she really owns me when she plays Dominatrix. She likes the visual aspect of it and is excited by watching me squirming, whimpering, occasionally pleading, lots of pain, lots of pleasure – pulling on my cuffs or rope while she drives into me. And… Pročitajte više

In the recent past, there might be a little Rough Stuff during the week, and occasionally I would be on Top. We were a Switch Couple, with plenty of conventional sex. In a deal that has faded away, if I worked out hard during the week I could request special outfits, like a School Girl Costume or a corset and stockings in exchange for my exercise. There were two sides to the coin, but I made almost all sexual decisions. It was actually from this agreement that my wife found her Dominatrix Role. I had done a good work out, and I asked her to dress up in black stockings and bustier like a Domin… Pročitajte više

I fucking **Knew** this was coming. My wife went out to lunch at a Korean Buffet with a bunch of her Asian Girlfriends. Now her lunch buddies include that older bitch from the Halloween party. She comes home, and like clockwork, when we go to bed I hear, “Hey, I saw something in a video. I was watching hard strapon videos like a tutorial for helping you. And I saw this wooden thing to keep the balls back and ready to spank and so you can’t stand up. I want one. It would be good for you. You could take so much more if we just try. Not just more paddle, but things to hurt your balls.” I told h… Pročitajte više

Thursday on Tuesday In my marriage, my wife is always, always, always asking for the one thing she feels she doesn’t get enough of: fucking me with a strapon. We still have vanilla sex, and it’s very nice and all. But if we have time she always wants the Rough Stuff. Always. She gets plenty of face sitting, and plenty of paddling and almost nightly CBT. Really, our most frequent sex is face sitting, then CBT. Usually a very ball crushing handjob. It is almost impossible to cum when your balls are being hurt that much, pulling and gripping and squeezing, while the other hand jerks you off.… Pročitajte više

My wife told me this afternoon that she wants 3 straight nights of pegging, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. She says we didn’t do it last week so I owe her, and it’s like Vig with a loan shark. I owe her not just one but three. One for the missed week, one tomorrow because it is Thursday, and one more because. It’s her favorite thing now. I pointed out that we only missed last week because she has been humping my face so much more. I love that and I would never complain, but I thought she was satisfied with that. Now she’s saying it made me miss my pegging and I owe her. I said, “it leaves me to… Pročitajte više

Gentle Reader, you may remember from previous posts that my wife and I have 3 rules. (1) No masturbating, (2) She can get oral anytime she wants, (3) If we both want to Top, we roll dice. Rule #3 has almost completely faded away. She always wants to Top. It seems to fit us a bit more naturally, so I don’t assert my rights on this very often. And I’m the one who turned our relationship kinky, so I can hardly object. It has evolved into this; One Night A Week she gets to play Dominatrix. Every Thursday, she gets to let her inner Mistress show. I look forward to this most weeks and some weeks I… Pročitajte više

In a bit of a twist; she has started talking a lot more when I am getting it. Maybe it was just her mood last week, but during my pegging she keeps saying things like, "The strapon is so good for you." "You need a lot more of this." "You need a good hard fucking all the time." "It's just what you need, but we should hurt your balls more. I'm going to buy something to really control your balls." And probably the most candid; "when you can take it for 10 or 15 minutes, really hard; I think I can cum from the vibration." Look at how long most videos last. 15 minutes of taking that big hard thin… Pročitajte više

Unless one is very slow on the uptake; one realizes that almost all Female Domination Porn is Performance Art. It’s all about pleasing the man. It’s all about his dick, his punishment, his orgasm, his this, his that. If you doubt that, look at the outfits the women wear. Some of those PVC and latex and leather suits with all the belts and buckles must take 30 minutes to put on. Femdom Empire is a great example. The women look just fantastic, and they have a full menu of every male deviant desire, but that’s clearly not about the women’s desire. A real Fm relationship is more about amusing her… Pročitajte više